***QUESTION***
Dear Stephane,
My mother is an emotional woman, sometimes she has
temper-tantrums and makes the whole family insane for days
at a time. How would you do it, psychologically, to stop her
from being in the state of hatred? I normally don’t want to
change people but in this case her tantrums are really not
going anywhere.
>>>COMMENTS:
Sometimes it seems as though the best thing to do is to just
avoid people and not interfere with their evolution.
Someone in a state of anger-rage should probably be
avoided, not because you don’t love her, but because you
need to take your own spiritual growth very seriously and
cannot afford to ‘hang out’ with the lower energy fields.
Fortunately, there isn’t a lack of help in our society. There are
psychiatrists and medications and spiritual groups at every
street corner. When it comes to your own mother, it isn’t
likely that you, of yourself, are qualified to help her.
Sometimes the best you can do is pray for the people you
love, and stay away from them when they are experiencing
’stress incidents’.
The way to help people out of hell is not by going down
there and trying to pull them out, because then you end up
getting ‘burned’ with them. Instead, by choosing to go to
heaven yourself, it leaves an imprint in the field of
consciousness that makes it easier for others to follow. By
analogy, when I was a bratty kid, my friend and I began to
cut through this grassy section on our way to school each
day, making sure to carefully walk along the same footsteps
until a path began to show up. Soon, other kids saw this
path and we all began to make it deeper. We made it easier
for others to see the path because we went first. This is
similar to what happens in the field of consciousness when
you walk the spiritual pathway, others will soon follow.
Perhaps the best way to help your mother is to remain silent
and loving. Use her agonies as your reminder to go to your
room and pray, meditate, contemplate, surrender, and
immerse yourself in spiritual study. Perhaps this is
literally the best way to help her, by ‘going first’ and
helping yourself.
Enter such a deep state of joy-bliss that you’re frequently
joy-crying and feeling like you can barely move because
your body is so filled with light. With enough meditation,
this is what occurs. When your mother sees this, perhaps
it’ll peak her curiosity and she will then be willing to
listen to well-intended advice, wisdom, and guidance.
As humans who love our families, we often want to do all
kinds of active things and say all kinds of sentences to
help them out, but spirituality tends to move in the other
direction, where the less one says and does, and the more
silent one becomes, the greater impact one has,
paradoxically!
In spirituality, you learn to just sit and ‘be’, rather
than always trying to actively get ‘out there’ in the
world and ‘do’ all kinds of active things. Strangely,
the less ‘doing’, the more ‘healing’ can often occur for
ourselves and our world. Thanks for your question.
Many Blessings,
Stephane Hemon
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